Unfortunately, there are far too many women who’ve experienced both abuse and shaming within the walls of their church.

Join host, Barb Roose, and special guest Tiffany Bluhm as she shares her story of speaking up and against unchecked misogyny. She will help us learn how to break our silence and speak up for ourselves as well as for other women around us.



Big Ideas From Today’s Show

1. We have created systems that are centered around one person’s vision…and it isn’t healthy.

Tiffany encourages us to take a hard look at the systems we have created that elevate the vision of one individual instead of creating a space for everyone to flourish. What we need instead is an equal, equitable vision where everyone feels valued and respected.

2. We need to lament. 

We need to lament that someone has been harmed. Tiffany reminds us of Jesus who, although He knew He would raise Lazarus from the dead, first took the time to weep.

3. We need to listen.

Tiffany reminds us of the importance of listening to those who have been harmed, even if they are sharing unsavory news about someone that we know or esteem. Just because we may have had a positive experience with that individual, it doesn’t mean that this abuse did not happen. Listen to someone if they choose to confide in you.

4. We need to learn. 

As we listen, we will learn more about the situation, how abuse happens, and patterns of abusive power.

5. We need to love.

Love looks like justice, calling the police, and calling those in power to account. In order to move each other closer to what God intended, we need to speak up against sin and injustice.

6. Speaking up is worth the price. 

Tiffany’s choice to speak up cost her everything, but she still says with confidence that it was worth it. Telling the truth may be costly, but do not squelch the Spirit’s leading to speak up. Entrust everything to God’s hands and move forward in faith.

About Our Guest Tiffany Bluhm

Tiffany Bluhm is the author of She Dreams and Never Alone, their companion Bible studies, and the forthcoming book Prey Tell: Why We Silence Women Who Tell the Truth and How Everyone Can Speak Up. She is a sought after speaker, writer, and podcast co-host of the popular podcast Why Tho, a show answering the existential and nonsensical questions we ask ourselves, with author and speaker, Ashley Abercrombie.

She speaks at conferences and events around the world, and her work has been featured in World Vision Magazine, Pentecostal Evangel, TODAY Parents, the Hallmark Channel, The Jenny McCarthy Show, and more. Her Bible studies on the Bible app have been downloaded more than 130,000 times and she was named a Woman to Watch in 2018 by Premier Media.

Tiffany leads an engaged audience online around women’s issues, identity, and faith. As a minority, immigrant woman with a interracial family, she is passionate about equality, justice, and dignity.


Links from today’s episode:

Tiffany’s Website


Prey Tell: Why We Silence Women Who Tell the Truth and How Everyone Can Speak Up

Pre-order your copy here.


Better Together host Barb Roose is a popular speaker and author with a passion to help women live beautifully strong and courageous in Jesus’ name. She’s the author of multiple books and Bible studies, including Surrendered: Letting Go and Living Like Jesus and Joshua: Winning the Worry Battle. Visit Barb’s online home at barbroose.com.









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