Wives, what is it that your husbands really want to tell you deep down inside, but they can’t – or won’t? 

On this episode of Better Together Facebook Live, host Barb Roose, I’m talking with marriage coach, pastor and author, Mark Savage about the five secrets that husbands wish that their wives knew.

1. Respect him

Mark encourages you to consider the way that you think about your husband. If your respect for him is dependent upon whether or not he is making you happen, then respect becomes a moving target. Mark reframes what respect is and isn’t.

Mark reminds wives that your husband wants to be your hero. He wants to make you happy and knowing that you respect him is deeply important to him.

2. Accept him

Your husband wants to know that you accept him for what he is and not pressure him to become someone that he’s not.

Mark suggests a question that you can ask: “Have I put pressure on you to become someone that you’re not?”

3. Make time for him

Life happens. Mark reminds wives that a husband may not speak up about feeling less of a priority than your kids or job, but he wants to feel important to you.

Mark gave some great suggestions on how you can intentionally make time for him.

4.  Influence him

Your husband wants you to ask him questions like: “I’ve been thinking about some things and I’d love to get your input.”

5. Have fun with him

Mark reminds you that your husband wants to have fun with you. Sharing experiences, laughing and doing things that he enjoys (even if you don’t) means a lot to your husband and makes him feel closer to you.


About Our Guest Mark Savage…Mark Savage is a author, speaker, pastor, and marriage coach. Serving in church ministry for twenty years, Mark and his wife Jill now devote their time to coaching marriages. Mark is honest, authentic, and willing to talk about the real stuff of life and relationships. He and his wife Jill are empty nest parents of five and live in Central Illinois.

Links from today’s episode:

Marriage Date Night – Home Edition


No More Perfect Marriages Resources



Better Together host Barb Roose is a popular speaker and author with a passion to help women live beautifully strong and courageous in Jesus’ name. She’s the author of multiple books and Bible studies, including Surrendered: Letting Go and Living Like Jesus and Joshua: Winning the Worry Battle. Visit Barb’s online home at barbroose.com.

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