Tips To Stop Fighting About Money With Your Hubby
Big Ideas From Today’s Show
Tip #1: Be careful that you aren’t only having transactional conversations about money.
When discussing the topic of money, talk about more than just what you two would like to buy in the future or have purchased in the past. Ask questions like, “What was money like when you grew up?” or “Where did your values and beliefs about money come from?”
Tip #2: The question rarely changes; the answer often does.
With each change in age, your circumstances change as well. The fundamental questions about money span across all age groups, but depending on life circumstances (married, single, position in life, etc.), the answers will change.
Tip #3: When you fight, notice whether it is over a belief or habit, or over transparency, power or intimacy.
When you get into a fight with your spouse about money, take a step back to determine what you are truly upset about. It can be easy to attack your spouse without realizing that you are actually upset about something deeper. Are you fighting about a lack of transparency in how your spouse handled money? Do you feel like you are being neglected and not permitted to make any decisions about how money is spent? Take the time to discover the real issue and then tackle that together.
About Our Guest Jacquette Timmons
Jacquette Timmons focuses on the human side of money. She works as a financial behaviorist and is committed to getting you to see that you don’t manage money – you manage your choices around money. In addition to being an author (“Financial Intimacy: How to Create a Healthy Relationship with Your Money and Your Mate”) and frequent blogger, Jacquette is also the creator of The Comfort Circle™ – a dinner series, where she hosts discussions about money, business and life over food and wine – and “Pricing Made Human™.” Whether PMH is presented as a masterclass, 1-day small group retreat, mastermind or VIP Day, it is designed to help entrepreneurs and small business owners tackle the question, “What should I charge for this?,” from all sides: the financial, the emotional, the personal, so they can price more confidently, strategically, and in such a way that propels their business and life forward. She is also the host of the podcast, “More Than Money.” Her work has been featured on Minnesota Public Radio, SiriusXM, “Good Morning America,” CNN, NPR and the Wall Street Journal. She holds an MBA in finance from Fordham University’s Graduate School of Business and an undergrad in marketing from the Fashion Institute of Technology. She lives in Brooklyn, NY and can be seen running in Prospect Park most days of the week.
Links from today’s episode:
Financial Intimacy: How to Create a Healthy Relationship with Your Money and Your Mate
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Better Together host Barb Roose is a popular speaker and author with a passion to help women live beautifully strong and courageous in Jesus’ name. She’s the author of multiple books and Bible studies, including Surrendered: Letting Go and Living Like Jesus and Joshua: Winning the Worry Battle. Visit Barb’s online home at barbroose.com.