Redefining Joy: 6 Truths To Help You Live Joyfully with Suzanne Eller

Redefining Joy: 6 Truths To Help You Live Joyfully with Suzanne Eller

How can you remain joyful when you just want to give up?

On this episode of Better Together Facebook Live, host Barb Roose talks with Suzanne Eller, as she shares 6 surprising, Biblical truths about joy. As a two-time cancer survivor, these truths helped Suzie see joy in God in a new light.

You are invited to embrace these same truths!

 

Big Ideas From Today's Show

1. Joy is more than a feeling; it is a knowing. 

As Suzanne was walking through a very hard season, she asked God to redefine her understanding of joy. She discovered that joy was not tied to her circumstances or her feelings. God cares about our emotions, but His joy is deeper than that. Joy is knowing who God is, who we are, and that every promise that God has spoken over us will come to pass, even if it looks different than we expected.

2. God cares about our feelings. 

Suzanne reminds us that God created us to feel and that one of the biggest joy stealers in our lives is the belief that if we feel sad, confused or upset, God will be disappointed in us. Invite Him into your hurt and heartache, friends. He will be with you. In Suzie's words, "When we give ourselves permission to be honest with God, we're not only giving ourselves permission to feel, we're giving ourselves permission to heal."

3. You can become a joy noticer!

When we truly choose to look around and see what God has done (and is still doing) in our lives, we can become joy noticers. Suzie shares a Biblical definition of joy as when, "We consciously walk into God's love and care."

 

About Our Guest Suzanne Eller

Suzanne Eller is an ECPA bestselling author, podcaster, and is frequently listed as a Top 100 Christian women blogger. She’s an International speaker and Bible teacher, ministering to women across the U.S. and in several countries.

Suzie has written 11 books including her latest, JoyKeeper. She’s co-host, along with Holley Gerth and Jennifer Watson, of More Than Small Talk with the KLRC network podcast, and has been featured on Focus on the Family, Aspiring Women, Harvest Show, 100 Huntley Street, KLOVE, Daystar and many others.

 

Links from today's episode:

Suzanne's Website

Home

More Than Small Talk Podcast 

Podcast

JoyKeeper Book

JoyKeeper

Better Together host Barb Roose is a popular speaker and author with a passion to help women live beautifully strong and courageous in Jesus' name. She's the author of multiple books and Bible studies, including Surrendered: Letting Go and Living Like Jesus and Joshua: Winning the Worry Battle. Visit Barb's online home at barbroose.com.

You Can Pray Every Day with Mary DeMuth

You Can Pray Every Day with Mary DeMuth

Does prayer make a difference? We know that we are supposed to pray, but sometimes we can feel discouraged or wonder if we’re doing it right.

On this episode of Better Together Facebook Live, host Barb Roose talks with Mary DeMuth, who will share about how you can pray in confidence every day, even when you don’t feel like it.

Big Ideas From Today's Show

1. Prayer is like a muscle.

Just like we go to the gym and exercise to make our muscles strong, Mary reminds us that prayer is the same way. The more we work out our prayer "muscles", the stronger they will become and the more connected we will feel to Jesus.

2. Prayer is relational.

Mary defines prayer as discussing your stress, worries and bothers with your Father who loves you. God hears and cares about our prayers. Next time you pray, try writing your prayers out and seeing how God answers!

3. God can "restory" our lives.

You do not have to be bound to your past anymore. God is able to redeem your hurt, pain and shame. Mary reminds us that God is willing to "restory" us so that we can be used to do the same for others. 

 

About Our Guest Mary DeMuth...Mary DeMuth is an author and speaker who loves to help readers and audiences live uncaged, freedom-infused lives. She has written numerous books including Not Marked: Finding Hope and Healing after Sexual Abuse and Worth Living: How God's Wild Love for You Makes You Worthy. She is also the host of the popular Pray Every Day Podcast. 

Links from today's episode:

Mary's Website

Home

Pray Every Day Podcast 

Pray Every Day Podcast

Mary's Etsy Store

https://www.etsy.com/market/mary_demuth

Better Together host Barb Roose is a popular speaker and author with a passion to help women live beautifully strong and courageous in Jesus' name. She's the author of multiple books and Bible studies, including Surrendered: Letting Go and Living Like Jesus and Joshua: Winning the Worry Battle. Visit Barb's online home at barbroose.com.

Not Today, Satan: Recap of Filming My NEW Bible Study, Breakthrough: Finding Freedom in Christ

Not Today, Satan: Recap of Filming My NEW Bible Study, Breakthrough: Finding Freedom in Christ

Not today, Satan.

That was the theme for yesterday when I filmed the teaching videos for my NEW Spring 2020 Bible Study on the New Testament book of Galatians titled, Breakthrough: Finding Freedom in Christ.

Friends, I had a really rough start.

Words that I’d rehearsed many times wouldn’t come out. I’d look at the teleprompter and second-guess myself, then forget what I wanted to say.

After repeated stumbles and bumbles, my Abingdon Press editor and friend, Sally Sharpe, intervened from Nashville through her Zoom screen, “Barb, stop for a moment and take a five very slow deep breathes.”

While I wasn't noticably nervous, all of the tissues in my body vibrated with the stress of unexpected car trouble two days in a row, a very emotionally- upsetting incident that happened two nights before, an angry social media dumpster fire the day before ...and Friday was also the third anniversary of my dad's passing.

This was all clearly an escalation of a spiritual push to undermine for my preparation for teaching six messages about freedom in Christ. I knew that. I expected it. While I never doubted God’s power and presence as the fiery arrows from evil searched to pierce my heart, I still felt the heat of the spiritual battle, hurt and pain.

Sally, lead videographer Zak Hermiller, videographer Brittany Kaelber, make-up artist/style, Cassie Agullana and our friend and Cassie's co-worker, Adeline Orwig, witnessed my struggle. I appreciate their non-anxious presence. They sat, prayed and held space with me. As I closed my eyes and prayed, they spoke gentle, kind encouragement over me.

Then, I began again.

I finished that first session with good energy. I taught with passion, I spoke with conviction and I knew that I was riding on God's power to get it all out. When I finished the closing prayer, I felt like I slide sideaways into homeplate.

Sally smiled and said that I sounded great.

The rest of the day chugged along in a cycle of outfit changes, set re-sets, make-up retouches and repeat. For all of my starts and stops, we managed to stay on time - that's all God right there.

We filmed the final session and promo videos outside because it was so beautiful that we just HAD to! Normally, I'm pretty wimpy with the cold, but I was concentrating on getting the last session done well that I didn't feel a thing.

I'd love for you to flip through the photo gallery and see the pictures of the filming day. The cover for my new study is below and I've linked it to Amazon for you to check out! Read below the gallery of photos about my new study, too 🙂

My new Breakthrough study releases in Spring 2021. This study on the book of Galatians was also inspired by my journey to let go of believing that I had to follow the rules in order to feel like a "good Christian." I found freedom when I finally believed that Jesus came to set me free and I didn't have to measure up to earn God's love for me.

I wrote Breakthrough for women who worry that they aren't good enough for God, feel pressured to follow religious rules or have experienced "church hurt" because of other Christians. Together, we learn that God's love is based on His perfect promises, not our performance.

I'm not surprised there would be spiritual opposition to what I was teaching. Jesus came to set us free and of course, the enemy of our soul wants us to believe that we have to earn God's love or earn our freedom in Christ. That's not true!

So, I don't want to focus on strategies or arrows of the evil one. Rather, I'm standing and celebrating the truth that I could proclaim! Even as those evil arrows flew in the days before the taping, I never, ever doubted that God would be with me and for me.

Even in the moments when my confidence flagged, I knew God's faithfulness was all that I needed!

P.S. I began the process of shopping for a new car to replace my 305,000 miles old car. After not having a car payment for nearly a decade, this is big deal for me. However, THREE unexpected freelance jobs came in this week. But, God.)

The Questions that I Don’t Like to Ask About Being Black

The Questions that I Don’t Like to Ask About Being Black

If we’re friends here online, you know that my name is Barb and you may know a few other details about me.

Tonight, I was a black woman stranded in a parking lot who was ignored when she needed help.

It wasn’t a good experience.

My good ‘ole Pilot didn’t start when I came out of Michael’s Craft Store this evening. (Ironically, I was on the phone with a dealership a few hours before saying, “I’m not quite ready to buy a new car. Give me a few more weeks.” 🙃)

Anywhoo, I tried a few times to start my car. Nothing. I didn’t want to call AAA until I had to. Then, I remembered that I had jumper cables.

I popped my hood. I gave thanks that I parked under a parking lot lamp so that I could see and that others could see me.

There was a car parked directly across from me and I figured that I would wait to see if someone could help. I hated the thought of asking a stranger, but I couldn’t exactly jump the car without someone’s help.

With my hood popped, I waited. Mask on, of course.

A woman came out. I said “Hi” from behind my mask. She looked at me and got in her car and drove off.

Okay, that happens. Whatever.

I decided to call my friend Aimee Fortney, who lived around the corner and she dispatched her hubby, Andy and their daughter Emma to my rescue.

While I waited, I wondered if anyone would at least stop to ask if I was okay, even if they couldn’t help.

Another woman came out a few minutes afterward. She was parked a few spaces over. I’m 5’10” and hard to miss. She got in and drove off.

Same thing happened again just a few minutes later. Another woman saw me standing there obviously stranded. She got in her car and drove off.

Ouch.

 

As I stood in front of my Honda Pilot in that parking lot, three more cars drove right past me.

Finally, a white SUV parked next to me and an older African-American man got out and asked if I was okay. I told him that a friend was coming.

When Andy arrived, another gentleman stopped to ask if I was okay as well as another woman of color.

Andy and Emma worked to get my car started but my old girl is 305,000 miles old so we needed to call AAA.

They left and Aimee drove over to wait with me so that she could give me a ride home. I told her the story and lamely guessed that maybe the women didn’t stop because afterall, we were in a parking lot in the city. It was dark and I did have a mask on.

All weak excuses to try to explain to myself why all of those women wouldn’t at least stop to ask if a woman with her car hood up was okay.

All I can say to you is this was my lived experience tonight. While those Caucasian women do not represent all the majority, tonight they did not represent the majority well.

Which is why Aimee and Andy’s kindness meant so much.

Living in a world where I have to deal with prejudice is a burden that feels too heavy at times. It’s part of the weight woven into the color of my skin.

Perhaps you’ve never had to ask yourself the question, “Are they afraid of me or ignoring me because they are afraid of my skin color?”

I have. I asked myself that question tonight. It doesn’t matter that I am an author, a speaker, literary agent, college-educated, tax paying citizen.

EVERY SINGLE African American person that you know has asked themselves that question at various and at many, many times in life.

It is a horrible feeling to wonder if someone is afraid of you just because of the color of your skin. It’s a horrible feeling to need help and watch people walk by and ignore you - and then deal with that whisper that asks, “Is it because you’re black?”

If you are offended by my story and believe that I’m calling all Caucasians prejudiced or racist, please scoll through my photos and notice that I am the mother of three half-Caucasian kids. Also, note Andy and Emma in the photo.

Why write this? This isn’t a rant.

I am sharing my lived experience.

I am sharing for those who want to know about those who look and live differently.

I am sharing for those who assume that my career or influence may insulate me from prejudice or racism, that is not true.

Most of all, I’m sharing for my brothers and sisters of color whose stories haven’t been shared or believed.

I know that many of you would be more than happy to help if I called you - so thank you! I hope that you’d do the same for a stranger, man or woman that looked like me. Please.

A giant, loving thank you to Andy and Aimee, who’ve been friends of mine for over a decade. Thank you for being there for me tonight. You’re the real MVP.

And a special thanks to the nice AAA guy for getting my car started. Bless you, dude.

The (G)race Project is a specially curated collection of what I've written about race, grace and the gospel, as well as interiews, videos and book recommendations.

It’s Okay To Be Messed Up with Kerri Pomarolli

It’s Okay To Be Messed Up with Kerri Pomarolli

Has your life been shaken up recently? When you feel like things are out of control and life gets messy, remember: there is grace.

On this episode of Better Together Facebook Live, host Barb Roose talks with best-selling author and comedian, Kerri Pomarolli, about how she has leaned on God during this COVID season after all of her gigs were cancelled and personal relationships shaken up.

3 Expectations You Have Permission To Let Go Of During This Pandemic Season: 

1. "Perfect" Parenting

For all of the parents who are navigating online or hybrid learning during this season, I feel for you. It can be difficult to deal with so many changes being thrown at us all at the same time. Kerri gives us permission to let go of our desire to parent perfectly and to take hold of love, grace, and maybe a donut or two.

2. The Small Battles 

If we allow ourselves to, we can get so caught up in the small things and easily become overwhelmed. Kerri gives us permission to let go of the small battles so that we can focus our time and energy on the things in life that carry the most weight (providing for our families, our spiritual walk, finances, etc.).

3. Our Fear

Kerri has watched the Lord come through for her over and over again during this season. If you are in need of provision, Kerri gives us permission to say, "Lord, fix it," and trust Him to provide.

 

About Our Guest Kerri Pomarolli...Kerri Pomarolli is a stand up comedian, author, actress and supermodel wannabe. She has been on The Tonight Show 29 times, General Hospital, Young and the Restless, Comedy Central and many more. She has been on Nick at Nite, Netflix, and enjoys touring the country with her clean comedy and Christian events. She's worked with everyone from Jay Leno to Carol Channing and is passionate about writing. She's written several books including "Moms Night Out And Other Things I Miss" that came out with the hit motion picture. She is so excited to be a writer for the Hallmark Channel as well. She is also a screenwriter and works in television writing and lives with her two comedy inspirations; Lucy and Ruby in California.

 

Links from today's episode:

Check out Kerri's website:

https://www.kerripom.com/

Confessions of a Proverbs 32 Woman:

https://www.kerripom.com/product-page/confessions-of-a-proverbs-32-woman

 

Better Together host Barb Roose is a popular speaker and author with a passion to help women live beautifully strong and courageous in Jesus' name. She's the author of multiple books and Bible studies, including Surrendered: Letting Go and Living Like Jesus and Joshua: Winning the Worry Battle. Visit Barb's online home at barbroose.com.

Many Hues, One Humanity with Dr. Lucretia Berry

Many Hues, One Humanity with Dr. Lucretia Berry

God intentionally created different colors and different cultures, but we still can’t figure out how to live as one.

On this episode of Better Together Facebook Live, host Barb Roose talks with author, educator and co-founder of Brownicity, Dr. Lucretia Berry, about how to restore God’s dream of us being united as one in Christ.

Brownicity is a community dedicated to transforming our world and eliminating racism.

Big Ideas From Today's Show

1. Race is a construct. 

Dr. Berry reminds us that God made humanity but man created racial categories and hierarchies. Understanding this simple truth inspires us to realize that we can create a better way to understand and navigate our differences.

2. Policies impact our American framework. 

Lucretia's course, "What LIES Between Us", is an incredibly helpful tool available to provide us with a better understanding of the policies in place that have impacted our country. The goal of understanding our policies is not to simply bring up the disturbing parts of our history, but to empower people to create something better!

3. Since our country is made up of complex people, it has a complex identity. 

Differences are normal! They are part of being human. Differences are not something to fear or shy away from, but something that can be embraced and celebrated.

About Our Guest Dr. Lucretia Berry...Dr. Lucretia Carter Berry is the founder of Brownicity - Many Hues, One Humanity (brownicity.com), an agency dedicated to advocacy, education and support for racial healing and antiracism that hosts thousands of learners committed to an antiracism learning journey. She is a wife to Nathan and a mother of three little girls. A former college professor, she is learning to courageously create the world for which she is designed. Lucretia designed a ‘beginners’ course and authored the accompanying study guide called, What LIES Between Us: Fostering First Steps Toward Racial Healing. She is the
Anti-race/ism Curriculum Specialist for Community School of Davidson (NC), a contributor for (In)courage.me, a TEDx and Q Ideas speaker (Charlotte), and a Senior Consultant for Point Made Learning’s The American Dream Game.

Lucretia and her family get to be a part of the amazing community that is Mosaic Church, Charlotte. She finds joy in prayer, dark-chocolate covered almonds, and dancing!

Links from today's episode:

Brownicity:

www.brownicity.com

What LIES Between Us Course and Study Guide: 

https://join.brownicity.com/courses/what-lies-between-us-self-paced

b.Kids Let's Learn About:

https://join.brownicity.com/courses/b-kids

Better Together host Barb Roose is a popular speaker and author with a passion to help women live beautifully strong and courageous in Jesus' name. She's the author of multiple books and Bible studies, including Surrendered: Letting Go and Living Like Jesus and Joshua: Winning the Worry Battle. Visit Barb's online home at barbroose.com.

Never Give Up On Your Dreams with Jill Kemerer

Never Give Up On Your Dreams with Jill Kemerer

Do you have a dream that you’re afraid to share with others? We should never stop dreaming even when we face disappointments.

On this episode of Better Together Facebook Live, host Barb Roose talks with Jill Kemerer who will inspire you to embrace your unique journey.

Big Ideas From Today's Show

1. Allow your rejection to lead you to dependence on God.

After receving numerous rejections and having 11 books turned down, Jill realized that the rejection wasn't the main point. God wanted to bring her closer to Himself. If you are facing rejection right now, lean on God for His strength.

2. Keep holding on.

Jill encourages us to keep moving forward, even in the face of discouragement. When things get tough, push on friends! It will not be in vain.

3. Give yourself permission to invest in your dream.

Ladies, don't be afraid to invest your time and money in your dream. Hire a coach, go to a conference, invest in a class, search for resources online. Although investing can be expensive, the payoff is worth it!

 

About Our Guest Jill Kemerer... Jill Kemerer is a Publishers Weekly bestselling, multi-published author of Christian romance novels with Harlequin Love Inspired. She loves coffee, reading, fluffy animals, and taking long nature walks. Jill resides in Ohio with her husband and two almost-grown children. Please visit her website, jillkemerer.com, and sign up for her newsletter.

Links from today's episode:

Check out Jill's website:

jillkemerer.com

The Cowboy's Christmas Blessings

https://www.harlequin.com/shop/books/9781335488435_the-cowboys-christmas-blessings.html

Better Together host Barb Roose is a popular speaker and author with a passion to help women live beautifully strong and courageous in Jesus' name. She's the author of multiple books and Bible studies, including Surrendered: Letting Go and Living Like Jesus and Joshua: Winning the Worry Battle. Visit Barb's online home at barbroose.com.

Giving Your Problems (and People) to God

Giving Your Problems (and People) to God

Last night, my youngest daughter called at 8pm because her car stopped working and needed a ride. She was studying for three nursing school exams and was super stressed.

I got home and then my oldest daughter video called me to show me her brand-spanking new crutches and the flesh-colored tennis ball sticking out of the side of her ankle as well as the massive pink and purple swelling around the whole ankle. “They said that it’s not broken, Mom. But I can’t walk.”

I text my middle daughter to make sure that she was still alive...

Some days are like this. I can’t fix what’s happening in their world. But it’s also not healthy or helpful for me to let Fear tell me all kinds of “What if” worst case scenarios or what I call “WorryFlix” stories.

In my Surrender Bible study, I teach six Surrender Principles to help you let go of what you can’t control so that you can finally grab on AND hold onto God’s peace.

Today, I’m thinking about Surrender Principle #3: “I can always let go and give my problems to God.”

This Surrender Principle which is based on 1 Peter 5:7: Give all your worries and cares to God because He cares about you.”

Instead of letting Worry take over, I prayed.

Later today I’ll coach my daughter in how to use her AAA to tow car the car. We’ll pray and trust that God will provide for her repair bill. He always does.

Later, I’ll check on my oldest daughter. I hope that she took it easy today, but if not, that’s for her to manage, not me. She doesn’t need me to push all of my worries on her. Love is listening, not nagging.

SHARE YOUR COMMENT BELOW: What about you? How can you apply Surrender Principle to your life today?

LEARN HOW TO LET GO AND LIVE LIKE JESUS

 Are you facing a problem in life that you just can't fix, no matter what you do? Perhaps you've heard the phrase "Let go and let God." But it's easier said than done. Is it possible that giving up on what you can't change is God's path to peace for your life? In this six-week Bible study of Jesus in the wilderness, Barb explores Jesus' time of testing and contrasts it with the Israelites' failures in the wilderness.

As you learn from Jesus' example, you'll discover six principles that will equip you to let God lead you to victory despite your circumstances as you deal with the problems and pain you are facing.

Barb’s Favorite Healthy Hacks

Barb’s Favorite Healthy Hacks

Are you looking for ways to stay healthy during this pandemic season?

On this episode of Better Together Facebook Live, Barb Roose shares some of her favorite healthy hacks to keep you eating well during these crazy times!

What You'll Need :

Note: This recipe is completely customizable! Feel free to add the ingredients you enjoy. 

1  Jar with a Secure Lid

Cherry Tomatoes

Shredded Carrots

Peppers

Red Onions

Lettuce

 

Steps:

1. Place the heaviest contents on the bottom of your jar (carrots, tomatoes, peppers, onions, etc.) until the jar is about half full.

2. Shake the contents around lightly to make sure they settle at the bottom of your jar.

3. Pack the lettuce tightly on top to reduce air pockets (more air can cause your salad to spoil faster).

4. Screw the lid on your jar, and you're done! Be sure to refrigerate if you will not be using it right away! This salad will last for around 5 days. 

Varieties: Instead of using lettuce, consider using quinoa or add chicken, shrimp or cheese for some extra protein!

 

Links from today's episode:

Barb's Surrendered Devotional

https://www.cokesbury.com/Surrendered

The Cowboy's Christmas Blessings

https://www.harlequin.com/shop/books/9781335488435_the-cowboys-christmas-blessings.html

Shari's Closet Outfit Planner

https://closetoutfitplanner.com/

Better Together host Barb Roose is a popular speaker and author with a passion to help women live beautifully strong and courageous in Jesus' name. She's the author of multiple books and Bible studies, including Surrendered: Letting Go and Living Like Jesus and Joshua: Winning the Worry Battle. Visit Barb's online home at barbroose.com.

The Arm Wrestling Contest

The Arm Wrestling Contest

Honduras 2013. Somehow, I ended up in an arm wrestling contest.

Paty and I propped our elbows on the folding white table and giggled while clasping hands.

Seriously, I should have not been wrestling Paty. She was my friend. We should have been sharing a piece of cake somewhere. But there we were...arm wrestling in front of a large crowed screaming in mostly Spanish - that I couldn’t understand. But I’m gonna assume they were cheering for me - ha!

Someone blew whistle. I threw all of my energy into that one arm. So did Paty!

Our forearms quivered, but there was no significant movement in one direction or the other. This went on for about a minute, and I started to feel really tired.

Someone captured a picture of my wrestling match with Paty about a minute into our match. The wide-eyed look on my face could have been translated, “I can’t keep holding this; I sure hope it’s over soon!”

Does my armwrestling match remind you of any situation you’re in right now? Are you trying to wrestle a situation at home, at work, or in a relationship that you can’t seem to fix? When we face problems but we’re unable to protect, fix, or get something back on track, it’s easy for us to feel overwhelmed or discouraged.

Surrender Principle #4 is: “Trusting God’s promises will bless me, but pushing my plans will stress me.”

If it’s gonna get done, God’s gonna have to do it. Here’s the kicker: He can get it fixed, removed, restored, clean & sober, financially secure or straightened out - all without your meddling, fixing and forcing solutions. God doesn’t want you wearing yourself out with worry or stress. Instead, He wants to exchange your chaotic heart and mind for His peace and promises.

PRAYER: God, I need to let go. I’ve been wrestling with ____________________ for a long time and it’s too hard. I’m opening my hands and surrendering ______________________ to You. In return, I want to receive your peace. I trust that You will do what is right and best for everyone and everything involved. Calm my fears and help me to courageously live by faith and trust in You. Amen.

🙃 What isn’t working in your life but you keep pushing to make it work even though you're about to lose your sanity over it?

-Story from Surrendered: Letting Go and Living Like Jesus Bible Study

Win Your Election Anxiety Worry Battle!

Win Your Election Anxiety Worry Battle!

I swear, it’s gonna be all over if the "other guy "wins!

Has that phrase or something similar come out of your mouth? It doesn't matter which candidate is the "other guy" for you, both sides feel like it will be the end of the world if the "other guy" wins. 

We’re a month out from the election, but our fears about what will happen after the election have been floating around for a long time now. This is called "election anxiety" and it's a real thing.

Look at the list of fears below. How many of these resonate with you?

I fear that the other person/other party will:

____ pass laws/agendas that oppose my religious beliefs.

____ reduce/remove some of my personal freedoms.

____ not protect me from personal pain or harm.

____ make us vulnerable to attack from other countries.

____ take away what I’ve worked so hard to gain or earn.

____ sink our country into financial collapse.

____ cause our country to fall into violence or chaos.

____ become a tool of Satan or usher in the End Times.

(By the way, did you notice how it doesn’t matter who your “other guy” is, that the fears are the same on both sides of politics?)

It doesn’t matter if you checked off one or all of them. I wanted to create space for you to get all of those fears about on the table. I’m not judging you, instead, I care about you, so that’s why I’m writing this post. My passion is helping women live beautifully strong and courageous in the midst of fear because I don’t want you to miss out on God’s great adventure of purpose for your life. If you’re struggling with election fear, I see you and I want to walk with you through this difficult space toward God's freedom and peace.

Uncertainty and Election Anxiety

Not knowing who will win the election creates just as much fear as wondering what will happen after the election.

Uncertainty drives us crazy. WE WANT TO KNOW IF WE'RE GOING TO BE OKAY! When we don’t know, those questions marks leave us feeling insecure and uncertain. Our natural negative bias kicks in and we begin creating negative mental movies in our minds about everything that we might lose or the pain that we might feel. If you’ve done my Joshua: Winning the Worry Battle Bible study, I call those negative mental movies, WorryFlix.  Like NetFlix or any other streaming media, WorryFlix serves up one awful episode after another in our mind. It’s so hard for us to stop watching!

Your mind collects whatever it is that you’re afraid of and uses that to script your WorryFlix episodes. The more that you read, watch or listen to in the news, the more WorryFlix election episodes that your mind can generate to keep you awake at night fearing the loss of everything that you hold dear.  The worst part is that your body feels your WorryFlix like it's really happening and the anxiety persists. But the good news is that you can win your election worry battle.

Canceling Your Election Anxiety

The Bible contains over 300 verses that contain “do not fear” or “do not be afraid” because God knew that we’d feel threatened by uncertainty. Being afraid isn’t a sin.

But God doesn’t want you to live IN fear. He wants you to live in confidence and security that He is with you and for you, no matter the elections outcome.

If you want to escape living IN fear, it begins with flipping your fear.

In my Joshua: Winning the Worry Battle Bible study, I say it like this:

The difference between worry and worship is who you are talking to.

For this year’s election, I’ve added one more sentence to that statement:

The difference between worry and worship is who you’re listening to.

For years, I fought a raging worry battle. The change came when I realize that I could turn my worries into prayers. One of the techniques that I write about in the Bible study is a smiple flip from "What if" to "God, if..."

Let's practice. Instead of saying:

What if _____ wins the election and wrecks the economy?

Flip that worry into a prayer and say, "God, if _____ wins the election and wrecks the economy, I know that YOU will/can _________. 

When you pray "God, if..." over "what if," that's how you cancel WorryFlix because as 1 John 4:18 says, "(God's) perfect love casts out fear."

I discovered this while reading about Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane praying before the soldiers came to arrest and crucify him. Jesus faced stress so intense, his sweat was like drops of blood (Luke 22:44). Yet, instead of "what if" worries, Jesus prayed, "God, if..." prayers . As Jesus prayed, "God, if..." he found the strength to face whatever lied ahead. You can, too. Do the flip from "what if" to "God, if..." whenever you begin stressing out about the election and God will give you the strength and peace to face whatever happens.

A few final thoughts. Take what you’d like and leave the rest…

  1. God isn’t for or against one political party or another. It's insulting to God when we try to shove Him in our American political boxes.
  2. I do not believe that God cares one iota about how you vote. God gives you a free-will, a conscious and His Holy Spirit to guide you. Vote based on your convictions and recognize that your convictions might be different than someone else’s.
  3. Vote because it’s good stewardship. (Full Disclosure: I’ve voted in every presidential election since I was 18 years old except for the one election when I’d given birth six days before and didn’t feel physically well enough to make it to the polls.)
  4. God is concerned with eternity, not this election. This presidential election and the next four years are a teeny-tiny blip on God's eternal timeline. Our country's future isn't guaranteed, but our eternal security in Christ is!
  5. God cares about your character more than your comfort. If your election anxiety is related to the fear that you might lose makes you feel secure and happy, perhaps God's invitation is for you to shift your security to Him alone. BONUS: I've included a few graphics below with a few verses that you can save to your phone and recall when you're feeling election anxiety.

TODAY'S PRAYER: Dear God, you are my future! Today, I need to let go of my election anxiety and focus my eyes on you. I trust that Your presence, Your promises, and Your provision will be all that I need. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

COMMENT: What causes the most election anxiety for you? 

"This Bible study was made for the year 2020 with all of the things on in the world. It has helped keep my worries in check."

-S., Amazon Reviewer

"Beautiful Bible study book with so many practical and applicable ways to manage stress and anxiety. I enjoy working on this study so much. What better way to learn about God and His promises than through study of His word! This book is also very well organized and interactive. Highly recommend." -M., Amazon Reviewer

Second Act Style: Living Fabulous Over 50 with Shari Braendel

Second Act Style: Living Fabulous Over 50 with Shari Braendel

On Better Together, we talk about everything from our worries to our waistlines, and this episode is no exception!

On this episode of Better Together Facebook Live, host Barb Roose talks with Shari Braendel, who will share how you can still look fabulous over 50!

Big Ideas from Today's Show

1. Your outer appearance can be used to represent Christ to the world

Many of us are tempted to believe that how we look on the outside doesn't matter. Shari encourages us to remember that our appearance is important because it can be used to represent Christ to those around us!

2. Be yourself

Shari reminds us that God did not make a mistake when He created us! When we say that we hate something about ourselves, we are critiquing what God has made. Tonight, look at yourself in the mirror and say, "Thank you God for making me so beautiful."

3. It's not too late to make a change

If investing in yourself isn't something you've done in the past, it's not too late to make a change. True beauty is on the inside, however, choosing to make small changes on the outside is a great way to boost your confidence and change the way you show up in the world!

 

About Our Guest Shari Braendel...Shari Braendel is an author, Christian speaker, fashion editor, and a professional image consultant. She is one of the most sought-after Christian women speakers on the topic of beauty – inside and out, Christian fashion, and dressing with dignity. Recognized for her fun, engaging, and transparent speaker style, her Fashion Meets Faith event is said to be “one of the most empowering Christian conferences available to women today”.

Links from today's episode:

Fashion Meets Faith:

https://fashionmeetsfaith.com

Take the FREE color analysis quiz:

https://www.colorenalysis.com/index.html

Grab Shari's AMAZING Outfit Planner:

https://www.closetoutfitplanner.com/

Watch Style Tips with Shari:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWcpxUNosAi8Y5lufekSp5w

 

Better Together host Barb Roose is a popular speaker and author with a passion to help women live beautifully strong and courageous in Jesus' name. She's the author of multiple books and Bible studies, including Surrendered: Letting Go and Living Like Jesus and Joshua: Winning the Worry Battle. Visit Barb's online home at barbroose.com.

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