God’s Promises When You’re “Pre-Stressing”

God’s Promises When You’re “Pre-Stressing”

Do you pre-stress? My friend Sara shared this phrase with me and explained that "pre-stressing" is when anticipating a stressful experience before there's anything to be stressed about. You're so accustomed to becoming overwhelmed and anxious that you assume that every situation will be stressful before you ever step into the actual problem.

If that's you or something you know, I'm so glad you're here. I'm sharing four life-giving, encouraging verses from the Bible today. Even if you're not prone to pre-stressing, you can always use encouragement from scripture, right?

Let's jump back into "pre-stressing." If we break this word down, it will look like, "Before I even get into this situation, I'm going to assume that I can't handle it, I won't have time to do it, or dealing with it will make me feel miserable."

There are four categories of pre-stressing, which in my Stronger Than Stress book, I call these the four “stress starters”:

  • Uncertain – Insecure about an outcome

  • Unexpected – Taken by surprise and unable to process or adjust

  • Uncontrollable – Inability to fix or manage the situation

  • Uncomfortable – Uneasy or bothered by what's happening

Question: Which one of these tends to trigger stress for you? Are there specific situations that you can attach to these stress starters?

Pre-stressing sends you off into an emotional spiral before you ever take the time to remember that God’s power and peace can get you through whatever you’re going through. Instead of pre-stressing, take time today to equip yourself with God's promises. I'm so excited about this opportunity to encourage you today!

In my Stronger Than Stress book in Chapter 9, titled "God Promised It, I Believe It," I share four sets of verses on pages 113-114 that you can apply to each specific pre-stress starter. I'm sharing those verses with you below. I also include a particular application question so you can use God's Word as a mighty weapon against any pre-stressing you might be doing today.

Uncertainty

For I know the plans I have for you," says the Lord. "They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. (Jeremiah. 29:11)

Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. (Matthew 6:33)

What uncertain situation do I need to apply this to today? _____________________

Unexpected

The faithful love of the Lord never ends! His mercies never cease. Great is his faithfulness; his mercies begin afresh each morning. (Lamentations 3:22–23)

Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever. (Hebrew 13:8)

 

What unexpected situation do I need to apply this to today? _____________________

 

Uncontrollable

I am the Lord, the God of all the peoples of the world. Is anything too hard for me? (Jeremiah 32:27)

Jesus looked at them intently and said, "Humanly speaking, it is impossible. But with God, everything is possible." (Matthew 19:26)

What uncontrollable situation do I need to apply this to today? _____________________

 

Uncomfortable

God is our refuge and strength, always ready to help in times of trouble. (Psalm 46:1)

Each time, he said, "My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness." So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me. (2 Corinthians 12:9)

What uncomfortable situation do I need to apply this to today? _____________________

 

I'D LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOU! I hope that you feel encouraged after reading those sets of verses. I'd love to hear from you about whether pre-stressing is a thing for you and which verse resonated with you today.

Struggling to Find Time to Read Your Bible?

Struggling to Find Time to Read Your Bible?

Last week was Labor Day in the US, and with thoughts shifting to fall, the raging debate between pumpkin spice and caramel apple has taken center stage. What's your vote? I'm a caramel apple girl!

However, speaking of labor, can we talk about something that sometimes feels like hard labor...Reading our Bibles.

Can I say something that many of you rather not say aloud? Here it is: You wished that you enjoyed reading your Bible more. But finding time to sit down with your Bible feels like another task to cram into your jam-packed life. Then, Guilt shows up with a big smile to shame you on two fronts: You feel guilty because you don't enjoy reading your Bible, AND you suffer terrible guilt when you miss reading your Bible.

I pray that God uses post to help you experience an a-ha moment that enables you to delight in God's Word instead of dreading Bible study.

For years, I believed my Bible study only counted if I sat down with my Bible, pen, and highlighters for at least 20-30 minutes each day. This was the only scenario that I believed God approved. So, when I was raising kids and barely making it through the day or seasons when I was grieving, crushing guilt piled on top of my exhaustion and sadness because I was positive that God was disappointed with me.  

Before you hit reply and blast me with, "Barb, are you saying that we don't need to have sit-down quiet times?" Yes, those sit-down study times are important, but here is where I’m going to add a BIG BUT ——> But, God wants MORE for you than to limit your time with the Bible to a structure of sitting in a chair for 30 minutes with your Bible, pens, and highlighters.

Here are four principles of scripture engagement that I believe can liberate and delight you as you grow in understanding and incorporate God's Word into your life.

First, Don't Give Up! If you're discouraged by Bible study because you can't do it for 30 minutes daily, please keep reading today's devotional. You need God's Word to show you the truth, teach you what is wrong, and correct you (2 Timothy 3:16).

These days, there are so many false teachers telling everyone to do whatever feels right, and I don't want you to be confused by their lies, which are fooling Christians everywhere. Don't set yourself up to be fooled (2 Timothy 4:3). If you miss a day, don’t beat yourself up. Ask God for help and try again the next day.

THIS ONE IS BIG ——-> Second, stop counting daily Bible study minutes and focus on embracing scripture-engagement moments. The great a-ha moment that transformed my relationship with the Bible was to shift from counting quiet times to this question: "How often can I bring God's Word into my thoughts, activities, and decisions throughout the day?"

Instead of focusing on how many days of the week you sit down with your, shift your effort and energy to how often you can incorporate God's Word into your day.

Study this Book of Instruction continually. Meditate on it day and night so you will be sure to obey everything written in it. Only then will you prosper and succeed in all you do. - Joshua 1:8 NLT

Third, each time that you engage with sculpture throughout the day reminds that God loves and cares for you during your day. The Bible contains reminders of God's love, grace, direction, and help. There, you begin to see the Bible as a dependable source of hope. You'll start to feel like the psalmist here:

I will study your commandments and reflect on your ways. I will delight in your decrees and not forget your word. -Psalm 119:15-16 NLT

MORE PRACTICAL ADVICE: You will automatically do what delights you. If you want to delight in God's Word instead of seeing it as a duty, here are six practical tips from my Stronger Than Stress: 10 Spiritual Practices to Win the Battle of Overwhelm book for bringing God's Word into your daily life.

  1. Each of these ideas is an intentional way for you to bring God's Word into your life. Try out one or two this week:
  2. Write out Scripture verses on post-its and tape them to your bathroom mirror, car dashboard or other places where you'll read them.
  3. Listen to an audio Bible in the car, at the gym, or before bed.
  4. Read a favorite Bible verse with family or friends at mealtimes, over coffee, or before bed, and discuss the Scriptures together.
  5. Sing! Lots of classic hymns and modern worship songs incorporate Scripture. Find those songs. As you sing, you're engaging with God's Word and worshiping Him, too. Here a playlist!
  6. Pick one Bible verse from your church's weekly sermon and journal about what the verse taught you about God and how you can apply it to your life.
  7. Choose a Bible study that interests you, and don't worry about what others think. If you fall behind, don't stop or beat yourself up. The big picture is that God doesn't need you to stay up-to-date in the study for Him to work powerfully in your life. He'll meet you where you're at.

ACTION PLAN TIME: Here are some prompts for you to incorporate God's Word into your life TODAY:

  • In the car on the way to school or work, you can _____________.
  • As you're waiting for an appointment or meeting to begin, you can _________________.
  • As you're doing the laundry, washing dishes, or doing your hair, you can ______________________.
  • Before a difficult phone call or before responding to a tough text message, you can ________________________.

I'd love to hear from you. Please tell me which Bible engagement tips are most helpful for you. If you struggle with Bible reading, how did this week's devotional encourage you?

Less Stress. More Peace. Everyday!

Too Stressed to Feel Blessed? My NEW Stronger Than Stress Book Available for Pre-Order NOW!

Too Stressed to Feel Blessed? My NEW Stronger Than Stress Book Available for Pre-Order NOW!

Today marks the official kick-off of my Stronger Than Stress book pre-release campaign! As of TODAY, God is launching me into a new season of serving you and, hopefully, millions of women struggling with chronic stress and overwhelm.

In this post, we're discussing what happens when we're too stressed to feel blessed. Since sharing God’s Word is important to me, I’ve included a powerful prayer for you and me from the Apostle Paul, who inspired my book.

Let's start with two questions:

  1. Do you feel like you're living in survival mode each day, barely making it through the day and desperate for anything to change?
  2. Do you long for more of God's strength and peace in your life?

If the answer to one or both of those questions is "yes," then you aren't alone. You already know this, but statistics regarding stress and chronic indicate that far too many of us feel like life is more than we can handle each day. Here's a sobering reality check:

  • A Gallup poll in December 2023 reported that 49% of Americans indicate feeling frequently stressed.
  • According to a March 2023 American Psychological Association (APA) report, 25% of Americans feel so stressed that they cannot participate in daily activities.

I don't share these statistics to spread bad news. However, if you hang out with me here, you know that I value hopeful AND honest conversations about our hard struggles.

Friends, I wrote Stronger Than Stress because I spent decades cycling from chronic stress to getting better to burnout. I thought stress and burnout were the norm because everyone around me kept talking about how stressed they were. So, I accepted the misery of stress as normal.

My anticipation of being stressed would begin before I opened my eyes. I used to think: "If anything else happens, I'm going to have a stroke," or "How in the world am I ever going to get it all done today?" My mind was filled with dozens of spinning plates, and I'd mentally run from one plate to the next. I was overwhelmed and exhausted. I'd frequently develop sinus infections or lose my voice, but I'd blame it on the air conditioning in my building. My heart raced from stress and anxiety all of the time. Once, I ended up in the ER with a nurse slipping nitroglycerin pill under my tongue because they were concerned that I was a stroke risk. I had no idea that I was suffering from the symptoms of chronic stress.

At the end of 2001, I had hit my breaking point and needed to change. I resigned my dream job as the executive director of a non-profit. The stress of that job was intense. I experienced frightening lapses in memory, forgetting where my kids were and not remembering important details.

While it was good that I left that job, I became depressed and I did my best to hide from everyone. But, God was gracious to me. I accepted an invitation to join a women's leadership and discipleship group at my church called Leading Ladies. I learned about spiritual practices or training exercises during that year-long group. I was aware of practices like prayer, fasting, Bible study, and medication, but I sorely needed to learn other practices like simplicity, solitude, and service.

The a-ha moment came when I realized that self-help books wouldn't break my stress cycle; the only remedy was learning new ways to submit to God's Spirit to not just break my stress cycle, but to learn how to live more in the peace and power of God’s Spirit. Two decades later, I invite you to join me on a similar journey!

Can I share the Apostle Paul's prayer from Ephesians 3:16-19 that inspired my Stronger Than Stress book? This is a powerful and beautiful prayer to kick off your week because this prayer is a reminder of what God wants FOR you! When living in survival mode, we develop a limited tunnel vision and forget that God can help us.

I've shared Paul's prayer before, but friends, this always preaches!

I pray that from his glorious, unlimited resources he will empower you with inner strength through his Spirit. Then Christ will make his home in your hearts as you trust in him. Your roots will grow down into God's love and keep you strong. And may you have the power to understand, as all God's people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is.  May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God. -Ephesians 3:16-20 NLT

Isn't that a fantastic prayer? It's just so powerful and speaks to the heart every single time!

Don't miss these essential takeaways from Paul's prayer: God desires for you to be empowered with His inner strength, not barely dragging through the day exhausted. God also desires for you to experience the transformative power of His love, which will keep you strong in life's inevitable storms so that you never lose hope.

Will you let me help you learn how to experience God's strength despite your stress?

In Stronger Than Stress: 10 Spiritual Practices to Win the Battle of Overwhelm, I share ten spiritual practices, like Sabbath, sisterhood, study, scripture, spiritual self-care, prayer and our friend, surrender. God used these practices to break my cycle of chronic stress, overwhelm, and burnout so that I’ve experienced God's strength and peace, even in on-going difficult situations.

If you feel overwhelmed by family responsibilities, work, and anxiety about the future, this book is for you. P.S. I've also written a separate Stronger Than Stress six-week Bible study!

Life won't become easier. If you don't change, nothing will change. You'll feel the same exhaustion and frustration physically, mentally, and emotionally six months from now or worse.

The good news is that you can choose a new path today - one that will help you live with less stress and more of God's peace.  

Your Next Step:  Thank you for allowing me to share my story and my Stronger Than Stress book! You can pre-order it now - and make sure to check out those pre-order bonuses!

My publisher knows how important it is for you to begin this journey to less stress and more peace as soon as possible. They've given me permission to share the first chapter with everyone who pre-orders the Stronger Than Stress book - PLUS other great bonuses like a FREE coupon code for my entire Stronger Than Stress audiobook! Check out the graphic below.

I’D LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOU! What has been stressing you out these days? How does the Apostle Paul’s prayer encourage you today, especially if you feel like you’re stuck in stress? Hit reply and tell me.

The “Secret Weapon” to Fight Your Worry

The “Secret Weapon” to Fight Your Worry

Are you struggling with a worry that you can’t seem to pray away? Sometimes, the roots of our worries are buried so deep into our hearts and minds that we need to give God special permission to dig deep and remove it.

Have you always been worried about money?
Do you always worry about the people in your life getting hurt or abandoning you?
Are you quick to flip out when uncertainty just won’t get certain fast enough?

Some of our toughest worries are like that stubborn plaque that mere brushing can’t remove. To eliminate those deep down, stuck-on worries, we must be willing to put up with being uncomfortable while God’s expert hand goes to work. Like a dental hygienist’s hook, God uses a secret weapon to scrape and chip away those hard-to-remove roots of worry from our lives.

Warning: This secret weapon is rejected by most Christians in the US because it makes most Christians feel too uncomfortable.

What is this secret weapon? Fasting.

By definition, fasting is to abstain from all or some things of food or drink, especially as a religious observance.

I know that bringing up fasting makes most Christians uncomfortable. If that’s you, I promise that it’s okay. It’s safe for you to be a little squirmy right now. My friend, no one is judging you. Especially not me! I refused to fast for years, but God gently led me toward fasting and I believe that God wants to gently lead you there as well.

Let’s start here – How do you feel about fasting?

  • Don’t know much about it.
  • Intimidated or uncomfortable just thinking about it.
  • Tried it, but not a good experience.
  • Fasted in the past, but not recently.
  • Periodic or regular fasting.

For many years, I tried fasting, but it wasn’t a good experience. I like food and it didn’t make sense as to why God would ask me to give it up during a fast. But then the pain of my life exceeded my cares about comfort. I encountered a spiritual battle so fierce and so difficult that I had to give God permission to use this secret weapon in my life. Not just so that I could survive my worry battle, but so that I could thrive in the midst of difficult circumstances.

What Jesus’ teaches us…
In Matthew chapter 4, God’s Spirit led Jesus into the desert to be tempted for 40 days and 40 nights. Think about what it must’ve been like for Jesus in the desert. There, He was fully exposed to harsh weather conditions and no protection from wild animals. He had no friends to call on and no place to lay His head.

Let’s not forget that Jesus didn’t eat for a very long time! Can you imagine going all that time without food? In the early days when I tried to fast, it only took about three or four hours before I wanted to give up and grab a snack. In this case, Jesus fasted for more than a month. If we calculate based on our Western diet, Jesus fasted 120 meals. And we feel like we could die after skipping just one meal!

Then the devil shows up. Note to self: Satan always show up when you’re in the midst of a difficult battle.

Why did God’s Spirit lead Jesus into the desert to be tempted?
It seems harsh that God would allow Jesus to endure spiritual temptation on an empty stomach. But God did this so that we could see how the power of God living within us can help us overcome our human desires, like worry, that can get out of control.

They say that a the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Thankfully Jesus proves that this isn’t the case. When the devil showed up, his first appeal was to Jesus’ hunger: “If you’re the Son of God, tell the stones to become loaves of bread” (Matthew 4:3).

When I read this verse, it’s not hard for me to imagine Satan holding a platter of fresh, hot bread with rich, melted butter slowly rolling down the sides. I can almost taste the yeasty aroma wafting through the air and floating under Jesus’ nose. Did Satan hope that Jesus would rationalize a reason to convert the stones on the ground in the hot, filling meal that would satisfy Jesus’ hunger, but scald his soul?

As a woman who has dealt with emotional eating as away to cope with stress and worry, I find that Jesus’ response in verse 4 ministers to my soul. Here’s what Jesus said: “People do not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of God.”

Jesus’ response to Satan reveals an essential need in my life: I can’t deal with my worry until I learn how to depend on God. It wasn’t until I fasted that I realized how often I sought comfort and security in other places instead of God.

When we voluntarily abstain from anything in our lives, it doesn’t take long for us to become uncomfortable with its absence as well. We’re upset by the loss of what comforts us and the exposure of that discomfort unsettles us. Richard Foster sums ups it up so well: “More than any other discipline, fasting reveals what controls us.”

When we fast, our thoughts and emotions reveal the rawest parts of us. Friend, when you fast and pray, ugly and very unspiritual thoughts WILL surface. That’s a good thing! This is the place where our most stubborn sin and fear hide away. But, once those places are exposed, God works on clearing them out so that we can experience freedom.

Jesus’ example of fasting isn’t just one that we can read and admire; it points to a pattern of discipleship that should be a part of every believer’s life. In Matthew 6:16, Jesus began his teaching on fasting with the phrase, “When you fast…” If you don’t have a “when” in your life, then perhaps today God’s gentle hand is leading you one step toward beginning that journey.

Do you need to fast?
Sometimes people get confused about whether or not Christians should fast. Jesus teaching on fasting emphasizes what not to do while fasting but it doesn’t discourage fasting itself. Here’s what Jesus says about fasting:

And when you fast, don’t make it obvious, as hypocrites do, for they try to look miserable and disheveled so that people will admire them for fasting. I tell you the truth, that is the only reward they will ever get. But when you fast, comb your hair and wash your face. Then no one will notice that you are fasting, except your Father, who knows what you do in private. And your Father, who sees everything, will reward you. (Matthew 6:16-18)

Jesus teaches that fasting should be the part of every believer’s life. But, Jesus entrusts us to figure out what kind of fasting we need. How you fast is between you and God. There is no perfect way to fast. If you need to start with just one meal, okay. If you need to start with fasting from one tv show, fine. Give yourself compassion if you halt a fast sooner than planned. Just keep praying and letting God’s Spirit move through you and within you –  that’s the ultimate goal!

In my life, fasting happens on a weekly basis. I’m not super-spiritual. It’s actually the opposite. I share this just so you know how real and difficult my worry battle has been. I fast weekly because my faith needs it. It’s hard every time, but my fast day is when I trust God to work out my worry. I write about my personal fasting habits in my Joshua Bible study and Winning the Worry Battle book.

Next steps for you…
If you feel like God might be calling you to fast in order to deal with some stubborn worry in your life, here are a few next steps inspired by Campus Crusade Bill Bright’s classic guide on fasting:

  1. Identify WHY you need to fast – Do you need spiritual renewal, guidance, healing, resolution, courage or grace to handle a situation?
  1. Identify TYPE of fast – What do you use to give yourself comfort when you are stressed? Once you identify whether it’s food, social media, Netflix, alcohol, relational distractions, then that’s what you give up.
  1. Identify how LONG – Pray and ask God to give you insight on how long you should fast. If prayer doesn’t provide clarity, then talk to a friend.
  2. Pray – Anytime that you fast, prayer should be a part of the experience. Otherwise, you’re just going hungry, right?! You can use the time that you’d normally eat as time to talk to God or in silence.

LEAVE A COMMENT: How do you feel about fasting? What’s easy or intimidating for you?

Learn the CALM Technique to reduce stress!

Learn the CALM Technique to reduce stress!

by Barb Roose

Do you remember that 90’s song, “Y’all gonna make me lose my mind / Up in here, Up in here”?

While a hugely popular rap song, it’s also the unofficial anthem of the super-stressed out or anxious person. It’s the kind of song you’re tempted to spit out when the unexpected or uninvited chaos pushes you mentally, emotionally, or financially toward the edge. Have you ever felt like you might lose your mind over the following:

  •      …Your car repair cost may require listing your kidney on Ebay;**
  •      …You have to wait all weekend to call the doctor for test results on Monday morning;
  •      …You’ve been hearing layoffs rumors.

When uncertainty or chaos lands in our lives, our bodies feel the stress and we experience symptoms like: a racing heartbeat, nausea, sweaty palms, numbness, or the inability to sleep. It’s so hard to pray when we’re feeling stressed out!  Yet, connecting with God is our best chance to find help and hope in our chaotic or uncertain situations.

A few weeks ago, I was heading out of town for multiple speaking engagements the weekend that my new book and Joshua Bible study launched. It was an important weekend! So, when I lost my rental car keys and then found them locked in my regular car (and my husband had the only keys to that car), my stress level soared through the roof.

Yet, I knew that I couldn’t let my emotions be in charge of the situation because God was truly in control.

So, I activated one of the tools that I developed to help me reduce those physical anxiety symptoms so that I could reconnect with God. It’s called the CALM Technique. This is one of the many tools that I’ve included in my new book, Winning the Worry Battle. Give it a try!

  • Count to 10 (Inhale on the number; Exhale the word MISSISSIPPI)
  • Acknowledge God’s presence by saying: God, I know that You’re here with me right now
  • List – Tell God what you are afraid of or worried about
  • Meditate – Keep repeating the following: God is here and He will take care of me/this

This exercise can reduce your physical distress so that you can open up a conversation with God. I love this tool because it equips us to walk in the blessing of God’s promise in Joshua 1:9: “This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” (NLT)

I don’t know what’s on your mind today. But, if you’re prone to meltdowns like me, practice the C.A.L.M. technique a few times today. Then you’ll be ready to use this tool to help you calm down during anxious times and connect with the God who promises to take care of you.

**Okay, so listing kidneys on Ebay is sooooo illegal. But, I don’t think that I needed to tell you that…

JOIN THE CONVERSATION: What are you stressed out about today? 

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