“KISS”-ing  2022: Six Mental Mindsets for an Peaceful Life

“KISS”-ing 2022: Six Mental Mindsets for an Peaceful Life

Happy New Years!

It’s a new year and I’m wearing my fairly new favorite hat. So far, so good here in 2022.

This isn’t a post about goals or resolutions. I just can’t with personal goals right now. (I’ve got business goals - that’s all good.)

But I do want to be intentional.

What’s a girl to do? I need to keep it simple if I want to be successful at being intentional.

Last year, my Word Of The Year (WOTY) was KISS or”Keep It Simple, Sweetheart” and I’m keeping it again for 2022.

(I figured that if the pandemic can stick around another year, so can  my WOTY because it’s still working for me. ALSO, I kissed absolutely no one at midnight last night because #omicron 😑. Kinda bummed about that.)

Here’s my thing:  Rather than goals, I focus on mindset habits that will position me for what I want to experience in life, which is to live beautifully strong and courageous in Christ.

It’s KISS that gets me there. So here is my KISS mindset for 2022:

  1. On my worst days, I will treat myself the best.
  2. I will faithful in the small things and trust that God will take care of all things.
  3. I will keep showing up and taking risks, even when I fail.
  4. I am not in control of others or outcomes, so Surrender is my path to God’s peace. *
  5. I will err on the side of choosing love, kindness and generosity.
  6. I will live from the truth that I am God’s beautiful, lovable, capable daughter. I am confident in Christ and worthy of God’s best.**

SHARE YOUR COMMENT BELOW: What’s your New Year’s habits, prayer, resolution, goal or intention for the upcoming year?

*from my Surrendered Bible study

**from my Breakthrough Bible study 

God’s Got You Today AND Tomorrow

God’s Got You Today AND Tomorrow

Last Thursday, I had the unique opportunity to speak to nearly 900 women at the women’s event at my home church. In fact, I want to give a big hello to those who were at the event and now are a part of my Happy Monday devotional community! Welcome!

It’s been over six years since our church’s last women’s event. In fact, I was the co-leader of that last event in 2015. So, it was pretty surreal that they asked me to return to as a guest speaker.

The theme of the night was “Uncomplicated” since “complicated” is the word that describes most of our lives these days. To honor that theme, I told the audience that I was following the KISS rule or the Keep It Simple, Scripture rule. I taught on just one verse.

It’s a verse that you may be familiar with, but it’s ALWAYS a perfect reminder for all of us. In fact, I’m going to share five powerful promises from that single verse that will encourage you today:

“For I know the plans that I have for you,” says the LORD. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” -Jeremiah 29:11 NLT

  1. “For I know…”- God already knows everything that we don’t know! I’m not sure what you’ve been overthinking lately, but perhaps you can save yourself some burning brain cells by remembering that God knows everything. Therefore, we can be confident that we don’t need the answers because He has them and He will help us with what we need to know.
  2. “the plans that I have for you…” – God’s plans aren’t like ours. God’s plans are made from His perspective. Here’s an illustration of the difference between God’s perspective and our limited perspective. God sees how everything that we’ve experienced or been through weaves into His eternal purposes.

I’ve learned in my life that there are things that I’ve gone through that weren’t just for me, but because God wanted to use those experiences in the lives of people that I’d never meet. The same goes for you. I promise you that God is using different parts of your lives in places that you’ll never, ever know on this side of eternity.

  1. “plans for good and not for disaster…” – Sometimes, our plans for our lives end up wrecking our peace. However, God’s loving plan for our lives always includes His peace, which is a life of wholeness and wellness for us. In fact, we can use that as a test for our plans: Will what we’re planning lead us toward or away from God’s desire for peace in our lives? If not, we may want to rethink that plan.
  2. “to give you a future…” – We were each created to make a difference! God’s promise is that we will have a legacy when we live with God’s big picture in mind. We can live this out every single time we live and love others like Jesus.
  3. “and a hope.” – God will never abandon us! We will always have Him to hold onto, no matter the circumstances that we face. In fact, the Hebrew word for “hope” is Tikvah, or rope. This is a reference to the story of Rahab in Joshua 3. She was instructed to hang a rope outside of her window so that when the Israelites invaded Jericho, she and her family would be rescued. Rahab didn’t know how God would save her, but she believed that He would. The same goes for us! We may not always know how God will work out the situations in our life, BUT, we can believe and be confident that He will show up for us!

LEAVE A COMMENT BELOW: Which one of these promises is meaningful to you today? I’d love to hear your thoughts about this verse.

This verse has been so precious to me over the past few months of my life and I hope that it’s been a blessing to you.

P.S. If your life has been complicated and you need some hope for the holidays, see below!

To get ready for the busy holidays, my friends and I are talking about the real challenges that we all face this holiday season. This broadcast event is packed with hope, wisdom, laughter and more – just what we all need for the holidays!

Join me and my author besties, Jill Savage, Katy McCown, Shari Braendel and Susan Seay in Waco, TX for our “Hope for the Holidays” Event filmed in Waco, TX.

We're inviting YOU to gather around the table with us. We’re talking about how to set boundaries for the holidays, creating realistic expectations and so much more - including a special, powerful bonus segment on dealing with holiday grief.

You're about to spent dozens of hours making Christmas happen. Give yourself the gift of three hours of hope!

You can have instant access to watch! This three-hour special event is valued at $49.97, but you have access for ONLY $19.97!

A Man’s Story about Anxiety – Mark Graalman of Sanctus Real

A Man’s Story about Anxiety – Mark Graalman of Sanctus Real

I want your love - to be unrestrained - tearing down walls - breaking these chains. -"Unrestrained", Changed Album

If you've ever listened to a contempary Christian radio station anywhere in the world, then you've heard of the Grammy-nominated, Dove Award winning band, Sanctus Real. (Feel free to do the loud crowd cheering here...)

In today's Better Together podcast, I'm talking with Mark Graalman, Sanctus Real's drummer and original band member. A life-long native of Toledo, OH, Mark is also on staff on Vineyard Church. He's married to his beautiful wife, Susan, and they are the parents of three boys.

Mark and I had a great time talking about the early days of Christian music as well as what it was like to start a Christian rock band back when organs reigned supreme and drums weren't totally accepted in traditional churches. He talks about having no idea as a teen guy that he would end up playing in stadiums around the world to groups up to 120,000.

Talk about cool.

Then, Mark talks about coming from a line of "strong and silent" men in his family. However, Mark discusses how his quiet persona covered for a difficult battle with anxiety that he's battled for much of his life. While women struggle with anxiety more often then men, that doesn't mean that there aren't millions of men around the country dealing with "worst-first thinking" as author Lenore Skenazy calls it.

In today's episode, Mark and I discuss:

  • How Mark managed his anxiety when playing in front of tens of thousands of people in stadiums;
  • A practical anxiety-fighting tool that Mark shares that folded up and fit in his pocket - you can use this tool, too!
  • The spoken word poem that Mark wrote for Sanctus Real's new Changed record.

Mark Graalman  Facebook  |  Twitter

Sanctus Real   Website |  Changed LP

 

About your Better Together podcast host...

Barb Roose is a popular speaker and author who is passionate about equipping women to win at life with Christ-empowered strength and dignity. Barb loves speaking at women's conference and leadership events such as the Aspire Women's Events, She Speaks Conference and the UMC Leadership Institute.

Barb is the author of multiple books and Bible studies, including her newest releases: Winning the Worry Battle: Life Lessons from the Book of Joshua and Bible study called Joshua: Winning the Worry BattleBarb's writing has been featured in magazines and blogs such as Simple Truth Magazine, iBelieve.com, Crosswalk.com, More to Life Magazine, Just Between Us Magazine, Cherished, InCourage, and Women of Faith.

An avid traveler, reader, and lover of all things chocolate-peanut butter, Barb and her family live in NW Ohio with their dog, Quimby and a very grumpy 10-year rabbit. Visit Barb's online home at barbroose.com.

Check out this episode!

Learning to Live Free – Interview with Stacy Lynn Harp

Learning to Live Free – Interview with Stacy Lynn Harp

 

Can we find freedom from past hurts or trauma? The answer is YES!

If you know me, you know that I am a HUGE advocate of mental health! Not only have I invested in years of personal counseling, but I attend a recovery group on a regular basis for my own serenity. A decade ago, I struggled with major depression and spending a year in counseling and medication delivered me back to wellness.

The lesson that I’ve learned is that good mental health is a daily investment and when we don’t invest in ourselves, we rob ourselves of the peace and joy that God promises. Don’t rob yourselves, friends. You matter!

My guest on this episode of the Better Together podcast is clinically-trained marriage and family therapist, Stacy Lynn Harp, the host of Bible News Radio.

Stacy Lynn grew up as the middle child between two brothers and to a mother who often expressed her regret over Stacy Lynn’s birth. When Stacy Lynn was seven years old, her mother had an affair with Stacy’s paternal uncle. Eventually, Stacy’s mother left her father, packed up the kids and moved to California with the uncle. For many years, the uncle sexually and physically abused Stacy on a daily basis.”He was sadistic,” recalls Stacy Lynn in another interview.

During our conversation, Stacy Lynn gives a recap of her story and explains the tragic reason behind why her uncle never went to jail, even though Stacy Lynn reported him to the police.

If you’re an adult, but you’ve still got a lot of baggage left over from your childhood, Stacy Lynn shares her journey from sexual abuse survivor to finding freedom from her struggles. 

Our conversation today includes: 

  • Why NOT paying for therapy is the most expensive mistake of your life;
  • What does freedom look like;
  • How to spot unhealthy people;
  • Lessons in faith from her soon-to-be-finished book, Pickleball Faith.

LINKS TO TODAY’S PODCAST

Stacy Lynn Harp  website | Bible News Radio

Stacy’s Testimony

What is Mental Health?

 

STACY LYNN HARP BIO

Stacy has appeared on the Fox News television show Dayside, as well as numerous radio programs nationally and internationally, discussing issues pertaining to the family, sexuality, social media, Christian persecution and Internet related issues.

Stacy earned a Masters of Science in Clinical Psychology from Vanguard University of Southern California, and is a gifted therapist and coach. Stacy has spoken at various academic and professional conferences concerning internet safety issues and the topic of homosexuality.  She has been described as someone who has a firm grasp on the issues and communicates passionately but with humor.

 

 

Learning how to REALLY rest – Interview with Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith

Learning how to REALLY rest – Interview with Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith

 

 

How many times a week do you say, “I’m so tired?”

Here are some signs that you’re might be exhausted. If you say “yes” to one or more of these, keep reading!

  • Do you get sick often – like sinus infections or headaches?
  • Is your mind so cluttered that you can’t concentrate?
  • Do you feel like you’re floating around aimlessly or that your life doesn’t have true purpose or calling?
  • Do you feel too drained to be around people or do you often feel people are judging you?

Believe it or not, but these are the warning signs of rest deprivation. Too often, we think about rest as just getting a good night’s sleep or watching hours of tv.   

Rest is much more than that! But, if we don’t figure out how to really rest, then we’re going to end up living really messed up lives.  

Let me introduce you to someone who can give you the help and hope that you need today!

My Better Together guest is Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith, an author, speaker, and board-certified internal medicine physician. She has an active medical practice in Alabama (near the Birmingham area).

Dr. Dalton-Smith is a national and international media resource on the mind, body, spirit connection and a top 100 medical expert in Good Housekeeping Doctors’ Secrets. She has been featured in many media outlets including Women’s Day, Redbook, First For Women, MSNBC, and Prevention. She is the author of Set Free to Live Free and Come Empty (winner 2016 Golden Scroll Nonfiction Book of the Year and 2016 Illumination Award Gold medalist).

Her newest release is Sacred Rest: Recover Your Life, Renew Your Energy, Restore Your Sanity, including ground-breaking insight on the seven types of rest needed to optimize your productivity, increase your overall happiness and live your best life.

 Today, Dr. Dalton Smith answers these pressing questions about rest:

  • How can we get a better night’s sleep?
  • How do we know when we’re rested?
  • What are some warning signs that we need to know?
  • Why is there more than one type of rest?
  • Why do women struggle with rest?

LINKS FROM TODAY’S EPISODE

Saundra Dalton-Smith:   website | facebook page

Rest Test Quiz: http://ichoosemybestlife.com/quiz/rest-quiz-test/

 

COMMENT: ON A SCALE OF 1 (A LITTLE) – 10 (EXTREMELY), HOW TIRED ARE YOU? WHAT DO YOU THINK THAT YOU NEED TO DO DIFFERENTLY IN ORDER TO EMBRACE MORE REST IN YOUR LIFE?

 

 

 

 

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